Unhealthy Beliefs

  • I have to be loved and approved by everyone.
  • I cannot make mistakes.
  • I am who I am and cannot change.
  • I cannot create my own happiness.
  • Life should be fair, especially to me.
  • I am a victim of my past.
  • My viewpoint is right.
  • My value is determined by my accomplishments.
  • Change and differences are bad.
  • Suffering is more virtuous than being happy.
  • I should be able to do things perfectly.
  • When I fail in one area of my life, I am a total failure.
  • I must always be productive.
  • It is other people who make my life miserable.
  • I am not an “OK” person.
  • I must always be in control of my emotions.
  • I need to give up interests that my family does not like.
  • Conflict is bad.
  • My partner and I dare not grow or change so that we stay secure.
  • I need to control my partner and my children.
  • I believe that I can control other people or events.
  • I need to fulfill all of my partner’s needs.
  • I must have immediate gratification to be happy.