- To say “no” without feeling guilty.
- To determine the use of my own time.
- To feel and express my anger appropriately.
- To feel and express healthy competitiveness and achievement drive.
- To strive for self actualization by whatever channels, talents, and/or interests I find natural.
- To use my own judgement in deciding which of my own needs are the most important.
- To make mistakes.
- To have my own opinions given the same respect as other people’s opinions.
- To ask for help from other people.
- To be treated as a capable human adult and not to be patronized.
- To consider my own needs as important as those of other people.
- To ask someone else to look at his/her behavior.
- To take care of my own responsibilities.
- To tell someone else of my needs.
- To be independent.
- To be an individual, a whole person, and be happy.
- To be selfish – take care of myself.
- To daydream.
- To set my own priorities.
- To ask for what I want.